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Confidence Is The New Currency!!!
Forget What You’ve Heard Confidence Is The New Currency.
Don’t believe me? Where do your eyes stop when you walk into a networking event scanning the room to determine who you should meet?
I’ll tell you…
They stop at the person who “owns the room:” who’s confidence is oozing out and catching your attention immediately. Confidence is no doubt the first thing we identify in a person or company. Its also what gives us the courage to buy what it is they are selling.
Confidence is one of your most important attributes as an entrepreneur. It’s the key to getting noticed and creating relationships that advance your business and life.
Go ahead Ask me… Shameca, How do I become confident?
In my opinion, the first step is knowing we are all born with confidence. Not until life started happening to you did you become fearful of expressing all of you God inspired gifts and talents. To course correct, you’ve just gotta find your way back to the confident version of yourself.
Just like prosperity and abundance, displaying confidence is your birthright. So, if you’ve lost your way, I have a few tips for you, and if they fit your personality…ROCK them, because you deserve to build a life and business that brings you joy!
TAKE ACTION…
Here are 6 Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Achieve Life and Business Success
- Focus on you natural strengths and use them daily. Each of us has strengths; natural gifts, talents, and abilities; And we were born with them. You know… It’s those things that you do naturally or instinctively, Its those deep-seated, intrinsic things that you do well and get praised for. Yep, those are your strengths! Your goal, is to begin using them each and every day. Spend as much time as you possibly can doing what you excel at instead of spending time on those things that you do okay. This will position you as an expert AND build your confidence.
- Shift Your Mindset. Its a known fact that you get what you focus on and you get what you expect. Expect that things are set up to work on your behalf. When you begin to focus on what you expect instead of what you are experiencing, your confidence in those areas will soar.
- Keep The Things That Boost Your Confidence and Illustrate Your Value Close To You. My favorite way to do this is my “Self Worth Journal”. It list what i’ve accomplished in my life. It shares the story behind my confidence. So, when i’m having a moment of self doubt or feeling like i’m not enough yet, (yes, it happens once in a while) i can reflect on all I have accomplished.
- Fill Your Self Worth Bank. One of my favorite things to suggest that my students and clients to do is spend a few minutes when they wake in the morning and before going to bed. Get in front of a mirror and tell yourself 3 things you love about you. This will boost and reinforce all that is amazing about you and position you to be ready to confidently take on the task and assignments that will get you closer to your objectives and goals.
- Build Your “Defy Impossible” List. You know… those things that you thought were going to be so hard but turned out to be a piece of cake. Write them down. For instance, one of mine was losing weight and getting healthier. I thought I’d never weigh less than 200 lbs ever again in my adult life. It use to be impossible but with food, strength and endurance training, I did it! And accomplishing that task boosted my confidence. Woot! Woot!
- Get and Play Your Theme Song Before Meetings. Now music is one of my secret weapons. What I love about music is it immediately shifts energy and positions us to take confident steps toward our goals. So get a theme song and play it daily or as many times a day as you need to keep your confidence high!
So… Talk to me! These are my tips but I want to here from you…
- How do you keep your confidence high?
- What do you do when you’re feeling unsure?
- How do you position yourself to be your best at all time?
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She is passionate about empowering women who find themselves playing small and are deeply and secretly scared of showing up as POWERFUL, DYNAMIC, and CONFIDENT to courageously own “who they be” and leverage it!
You know You’re Playing Small When….
So, what happens when you dim your light? 
In the infamous words of Marianne Williamson:
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.When you let your light shine, you unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
Real Truth: you never reach your true potential and you seldom change the lives of others. You wander from one thing to the next, never really settling on what you should be doing to leave a legacy because you’ve decided that being who you were created to be isn’t really all that great, and that somehow if you downplay who you are, you will help more people.
Am I describing you?
Here’s My Question; Why did you become an entrepreneur and start your own business if you weren’t going to shine?
Real Talk: entrepreneurship takes guts. Guts to move when everyone else is saying stay. Guts to invest when others are holding on tightly to their wallets. Guts to lead when everyone else is falling into the crowd. You have to be willing to lose when others are winning.
So, why do so many entrepreneurs play small? Doing just enough to get by instead of going big?
It’s because they are fearful of what others will think of them when they win. Or, it’s for fear of what they will think of themselves.
I know you’re saying, “No, that’s not me,” but isn’t it?
You hold back on your gifting and don’t figure out how to make it work by investing in yourself because the thought of winning, of succeeding, scares the bejesus out of you!
Then there are those of you who believe that you are playing big, doing everything you know to do so that you can grow your business yet it’s not happening.
What’s your problem?
You see, abundance flows freely in situations and circumstances when we are transparent and open to receiving all the gifts that God and His abundant universe have for us.
DO YOU DO THIS:
(Pay attention to the list to see where you are downplaying your God inspired gifts and worth because it’s time for a Stiletto Step Up as, as we call it in the society)
1. When someone gives you a compliment, you say, “Oh, that, that was nothing.” Instead of taking a bow and just saying thank you.
How do I know?
Because I use to do the same thing. The thought that someone wouldn’t like me if they knew how good I was at whatever it was made me want to appear less great. You do realize that it’s very easy to just say thank you. It makes the giver of the compliment feel good because they were able to give you something that was received.
2. Not charging what you’re worth or not charging at all. You don’t charge what you know you should for fear that they will not pay you and you have come to the conclusion that some income is better than none so you charge less and feel horrible about it.
Whenever you don’t get paid what you’re worth, you are not able to give freely unto others. You perform the task they underpaid you for with disdain and that shows.
3. Not investing in yourself or your business. When you don’t invest it’s for one of two reasons:
one, you’re fearful about the financial commitment or two, you believe you know it all and don’t need help.
We all need help. There is no such thing as a self-made millionaire. We all need others to achieve our goals and dreams. If you could do it by yourself, it would already be done.
I dare you to ask a millionaire if he became one all by himself. Ask one and I bet you he will name the countless people who aided in his journey.
4. Not accepting gifts. By not taking a gift that someone is giving you, you are bringing more strife into your life. The flow of abundance stagnates as soon as you don’t accept it. Remember giving and receiving are spiritual foundations.
5. Not accepting an opportunity. When given an opportunity based on something you’ve asked for but you don’t take it for fear of failure or success, you are downplaying your God Inspired gifts and you magnificence which means that you really want to remain the way you’ve been. Change or growth is really not your desire, which means you are lying to yourself and more importantly to God.
6. Withholding. This is the big one. Examples of withholding include not tipping your waiter or waitress accordingly when out to eat or my favorite: not being your best at all times – a true downplay. Holding back who you are and what you are capable of because you fear that others will judge you.
So how do you stop downplaying who you really are, Stiletto Step Up, and start experiencing true abundance?
Own it. As they say, “ownership is 9/10th of the law.”
When you completely, fully own who you are and what you were created to do by taking personal responsibility, you get to enjoy the law of circulation and all of its fruits in your life consistently.
Ownership is serious. In fact, it’s mandatory if you desire to play big and help others to experience transformation through you.
Ownership is about developing, mastering and implementing the mindset shifts and beliefs that exhibit power in all areas of your life.
When you develop the confidence and poise to trust what you’ve been given to share with the world, by saying an unequivocal yes, you start to experience the benefits of ownership. And I, for one, believe that ownership has its privileges.
TAKE ACTION:
1. List all of the ways you have been downplaying your God inspired gifts and worth.
2. Get clear on the reasons why you have chosen those self-sabotaging behaviors.
3. Ask yourself if there is any evidence to support why you have been behaving this way?
4. Now that you are aware of the ways you have been downplaying, create a plan of how you will stop downplaying immediately going forward.
5. When you are allowing abundance to flow into your life and business, what will your life and business look like? Describe what you want instead.
6. How does this vision make you feel?
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She is passionate about empowering women who find themselves playing small and are deeply and secretly scared of showing up as POWERFUL, DYNAMIC, and CONFIDENT to courageously own “who they be” and leverage it!
5 Money Mindset Shifts to Open Cash Flow
Every headline, news report, and magazine cover seems to scream the same thing at us day after day: “The Economy Is Doomed!” So it’s an especially important time to watch your own beliefs, and make sure you don’t fall into a “scarcity” mentality. Believe it or not, there are many people out there making good money, and in fact, making more money in the last four years than they had ever previously!
Why shouldn’t this include you? What are the “messages” you’re telling yourself? Are your thoughts consistently filled with abundance, creativity, and possibility? Or are they more often “running a number” on you about lack, failure, and pessimism – even unconsciously? Your mind is a very powerful tool of creation.
Your thought patterns really do create the way that you experience the world around you and the things that you focus your attention on will be attracted to you. So, you must become aware of what your money mindset beliefs are (or your money B.S. as I like to call them) and whether they are helping or hindering your success.
Here are 5 money mindset shifts that will support you and your business:
Money Is Really Simply an “Exchange of Energy”:
With everything that you do, and everything you receive, there is an exchange of energy. This is true also in your business; with every client communication, every consultation, every tele-class, and every written article, you are giving out energy, and it is being received by the other person. Money can be looked at as a representation of this energy. People pay you in the form of money (energy), so that they can receive your gifts. And then you pay others with money (energy) for their products or services. It’s really just one big exchange of energy – the money “itself” is just rectangular, green paper (at least in the US). The Shift: It’s really about what it represents, right?
Money Is a Sign That You Are Impacting The World:
Too often, coaches, consultants, and others in “helping” professions have negative associations with making a lot of money. Oh, they want a reasonable amount – but when asked to dream big, many say that wanting an excess of money feels greedy and uncouth. But think about this – you’re paid for your gifts and talents, and the impact that those have on your clients. So this money represents the tremendous effect you are having on the world. The Shift: More money is a sign of your greater impact, plain and simple.
You Must Actively Pay Attention To Your Money:
Respect and gratitude for money is extremely important. It’s like a relationship: Would you stick around for someone who didn’t pay any attention to you. It’s mandatory that you know exactly what you have, and that you’re making mindful decisions about what to use it for (remember the “exchange of energy” concept). It’s also helpful to get honest about your money situation with a small group of trusted friends or mastermind members who can “hold you as powerful” and support your intentions to bring in more income. This level of intimacy actually banishes any shame you may have about your money situation. And lastly, take a moment for gratitude with every check you write to pay bills or purchase you make – that you have the money to do so! The Shift: You get what you focus on and what you focus and pay attention to grows and becomes a bigger part of your life.
Stop Trying to Control the “How” of Money:
When you feel in your “gut” that you’re on the right track – when you’re coming from a place of inspiration – always take the next indicated action. Don’t talk yourself out of it with limiting beliefs such as “I don’t know how” or “what if it doesn’t work?” The moment you say YES and commit, trust me, the means will show up. The “how” of it all will present itself, one action at a time. You don’t have to know it all before you start moving forward. Money may flow in beyond your wildest expectations, and from a variety of sources you never could have predicted. Better to let go of controlling how it’s all going to work – God usually has something greater in mind than we can even imagine.
Money Needs To Flow:
“Money is like water, it needs to flow. When it doesn’t, it damns up, stagnates and goes septic. Fear, doubt and anxiety will stagnate the flow of money.” ~ Kendall Summerhawk, Million Dollar Marketing Coach
If you want your clients to spend their money with you, YOU need to be a model for spending your money with others. Period. Now, I’m not suggesting going into debt. But what I AM recommending is you continue to invest wisely in your business. On an energetic level there is no way you’ll get prospective clients to invest with you if you’re not walking your talk. The trick is to invest in products and services that add VALUE to your life or business. Once you practice this for yourself, you’ll understand first hand what it feels like so you can authentically guide your prospective clients to do the same. The Shift: Holding on to money will not keep you from losing it but it will keep you broke! Keep money circulating, spend and receive, spend and receive!
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Shameca Tankerson, is a Speaker, Trainer, Author, and Cash Flow Success Mentor to entrepreneurs and service professionals. Using a proven system, she opens a candid dialogue about money that teaches her clients how to breakthrough to their next income level and expand into a cash flowing business with a new collaborative business model that is liberating, Inspiring and Powerful. To Get your F.R.E.E. “Spark Your Cash Flow Financial Success Kit” – Making Room For Money: 5 Financial Mistakes Entrepreneurs Make That Sabotage Their Cash Flow (And How To Avoid Them). Visit: http://www.MakingRoomForMoney.com
3 Sure Fire Ways To Know Your Worth
I’ve had my battles with self worth issues. Even as confident as I am.
I used to believe that an increase in income or a windfall will make everything better and loved the status that came from the things that money helped me buy. I used whatever credit and money I had to buy things that would impress others.
I believed money would solve all of my problems.
And with that belief came the presence of ongoing anxiety about my money status that occurred because my self-worth was linked to my net worth. I took crazy financial risks because I wanted to have the stories of big gains to impress people.
Little by little I had to make changes internally on both my conscious and subconscious mind around money and externally in the terms of shifting my business model as well as shifting the way I treat and pay attention to money.
One of the results is that I’ve become truly comfortable setting prices, and talking about money with clients and my family. As a result, I am much more successful as a business owner.
The truth is HOW you feel about money can have a significant impact on your overall mental and emotional well-being as well as your ability to generate consistent income.
So Here are my 3 tips:
- Get clear about your worth. State it, repeat it, own it. “Don’t mess around,” and be confident of the value that you provide. Build your self worth bank.
- Accept discomfort. Building a sense of self-worth can be challenging—even painful. Remember this…Everything you truly want is right outside of your comfort zone.
- Earn more now. Women earn 20% less than men. The fastest way to change your net worth now by earning more. Set lofty goals. Raise your fees. Ask for a raise.
- Never believe your “limitations. Stick with your vision, hire people to help and support you — You’re a wealthy entrepreneur. Wealthy Entrepreneurs Don’t Do It Alone!
I’d love to here from you…
How’s your inner sense of self-worth?
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Shameca Tankerson, is a Speaker, Trainer, Author, and Cash Flow Success Mentor to entrepreneurs and service professionals. Using a proven system, she opens a candid dialogue about money that teaches her clients how to breakthrough to their next income level and expand into a cash flowing business with a new collaborative business model that is liberating, Inspiring and Powerful. To Get your F.R.E.E. “Spark Your Cash Flow Financial Success Kit” – Making Room For Money: 5 Financial Mistakes Entrepreneurs Make That Sabotage Their Cash Flow (And How To Avoid Them). Visit: http://www.MakingRoomForMoney.com
3 Simple Ways To Fatten Your Bank Account
MONEY. Sometimes it might as well be a four letter word. Have you ever felt if you ignore the topic it will go away? Did That increase your income? I Here it all the time…Shameca ” how do you do day to day management and monthly management of money in your business” and that statements if oftern followed by I’m not a financial persona like you. Shhhh…I’ll let you in on a secret. I’m not a financial person either. I had spreadsheets and all that jazz. And thats why i’ve created simple system that make the money part of business easier. Let me share a secret with you about money, It loves attention! I have three ways that will make tracking your money simple and doable.
So, how does a business owner manage money?
Why should you even pay attention to your money? Well, one of the attributes of money that I teach is “Money Loves Attention”. Just like most relationships, the more love and attention you give money the more of it you will make. This is true for everyone. From the person who avoids looking at your bank accounts and bills = a classic avoider. No worries – you’re not alone, I used to reside in that camp.
To the person who feels as though you don’t need any money to do what you love – you’re a classic martyr. Or maybe you just spend every dollar that comes into the door – you’re a spender. Or finally, you might hoard your money so close to you that you deny yourself pleasure and you aren’t growing – you’re a saver. No matter where you fall – tracking how much money is going in and out – is going to help you create a better relationship with money. And that will translate to more green stuff in your bank account and more massages and tasty restaurant meals (whoo hoo – I’m in!) Here are three ways to start receiving more money today:
ATTENTION: These three tracking mechanisms are not for your accountant. They are more for you to keep an eye on your money. What you do for your accountant may or may not be different.
1. Daily: Track Cash Flow: Create a Cash Flow Tracking Sheet: Here’s a simple system. Take out a piece of paper….YEAH I said a sheet of paper. Number it from 1-31 on the left – these numbers stand for the days of the month. On the top, write an inspirational quote for yourself. For example: “I am a money attracting genius and people eagerly pay me for the transformation I provide.” Also write down how much money you would like to attract over the next 30-60 days.
For example: 60 Day Goal: May 15th – $8,500. Now next to each of those numbers you will write down all the money that comes to you from ALL the sources in your life. It doesn’t matter whether it is business-oriented or not -all means all. If you find a $20 bill on the street, write it down. If your grandmother sends you a card with a check, write it down. For those of you that use a shopping-cart, Paypal or merchant account, write down the number that comes in from the day’s total. Every time you write your daily number down – celebrate, cheer, have a praise party. Show gratitude. Create and inviting atmosphere for the flow even more towards you. Remember, “money loves attention” .
OKAY. So I know some of you are thinking, “Shameca, I don’t make money every day. My sheet is going to be totally blank.” I want to encourage you that this process is almost magical. By month 5, you’ll be attracting more money than you ever did before. Why? Because you’ll be giving it attention of course. And we all know we get what we focus on. But don’t be misguided. You can’t just sit in your home and wish for the money. What you’ll find is that you start to get creative about how to attract money here, there and everywhere, namely bec ause there is a part of you that wants to fill your sheet. It’s not that different from the gold star tracking system that our elementary school teachers used. I mean who doesn’t want more gold stars?
2. Monthly or Weekly: Track Expenses: Ok, this one isn’t as much fun, but it is necessary. As a business owner, you also have to be aware of what is going out. The way that I do this is in excel. I set up a spreadsheet that has all the categories of my expenses for both business and personal in the first column. The second column is titled personal and the third column is titled business. Then I save every receipt everywhere I go – business or personal. At the end of each week or each month, enter the receipts into the business or personal column. If you don’t like the data entry of receipts there’s a cool tool called neat receipts that will input it all for you. That way you can get a sense of your spending for the month in various areas. You can also hire a bookkeeper to do thi s for you either in Excel, Quicken or Quickbooks. You can also learn to do it yourself in the software. It’s up to you.
3. Quarterly: Evaluate Cash Flow- Income and Expenses and Evaluate Your Money Making Strategy: First, evaluate your expenses: Have you ever looked at your credit card bill and noticed that you are being charged for a club that you totally forgot that you joined? Or that you haven’t used a software you purchased in three months even though you’ve been paying dues? It’s good to evaluate your expenses each month and make sure that you are still paying for what is important to you. You should also do a check on how much you’ve been paying for certain categories. I noticed once that my restaurant bill had more than doubled and it came with 10 extra pounds! You can bet I did some more home-cooking after that! It’s not uncommon for me to help my client’s find $25,000-$50,000 a year in fees and expenses that could have been eliminated. What could you do with an extra $25,000 – $35,000.
Second evaluate your Money Making Strategy: What launches worked well? Which ones brought you less money then you had liked? For example, I often see practitioners offering retreats where they either break even or make very little money on each client. When they work with me we figure out a service that takes less time and brings in a higher return on the investment. Decide what could you do differently over the next 3 months? Then change your Cash Flow Strategy accordingly so that you are doing activities that bring in the most amount of money and give you the greatest amount of pleasure.
In terms of making room for money and increasing cash flow, this is just the tip of the iceberg, but these activities alone can double your Cash Flow if you do them consistently. Good luck with it all and do let me know how it works for you. And feel free to tell me how you manage your money in the comments on my Facebook Page. I’m always open for new ideas
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Shameca Tankerson, is a Speaker, Trainer, Author, and Cash Flow Success Mentor to entrepreneurs and service professionals. Using a proven system, she opens a candid dialogue about money that teaches her clients how to breakthrough to their next income level and expand into a cash flowing business with a new collaborative business model that is liberating, Inspiring and Powerful. To Get your F.R.E.E. “Spark Your Cash Flow Financial Success Kit” – Making Room For Money: 5 Financial Mistakes Entrepreneurs Make That Sabotage Their Cash Flow (And How To Avoid Them). Visit: http://www.MakingRoomForMoney.com
Is Your Money Mindset Crippling Your Business?
The latest statistics from the Small Business Administration’s latest stats show that new businesses have a 50 percent chance of surviving beyond the first five years.
Some common factors that contribute to business failures are:
What Are You Free To Do?
Money Won’t Create Success, the freedom to make it will. ~Nelson Mandela~
Pursuing Your Passion is Fulfilling and Leads to Financial Freedom. ~Robert G. Allen~
The Best Thing About Starting A Business is It Gives You The Freedom To Do Your Own Thing. ~Paul Clitheroe~
In honor of independence day, I’ve decided to blog about financial freedom. As an entreprenuer, my business gives me the freedom to do so many things.
- Instantly Create Money Making Opportunities
- Spend More Time with My Family
- Use my gifts, talents, and knowledge to impact and empower the lives of others
As I work with coaches, consultants, and service based business owners on a daily bases, the common thread of desire is financial freedom. In order to achieve financial freedom you need to establish a roadmap for financial success and have the right mindset.
How often do you dream about financial independence, but struggle to believe that it’s actually possible for you? Are the business expenses piling up? Do you fear the financial obligations that come with the next step of growth?
I have a message of hope.
You can achieve the financial independence you deserve if you know the right choices to make and you’re willing to believe that you can do it!
When you get your financial situation under control, the benefits you experience will touch every area of your life. Many of the daily stresses you face that seem totally unrelated to money will disappear. Your physical health will improve quickly as you regain control of your stress levels. Plus, you’ll be able to think more clearly about your goals and dreams.
Less stress means the more time to enjoy your family and nurture the relationships that are most important to you. Small steps in the right financial direction can give you the freedom to enjoy your life!
The Most Powerful Way to Leverage Business Credit
Tips to Unlock Business Capital
CEO’s of new businesses should be aware that most Start-up businesses do not reach a level of profitablility and cashflow for while. The accurate use of business lines of credit along with a great business idea and plan can kick start the process. Business Lines of Credit are very flexible tools that allow you to make payments out of th money you have set aside from your initial cash draw while you uild your business!
In the world of Business Credit, this is called seasoning money. Seasoning money means to set aside some of the cash you withdraw from your business lines of credit and place it into another account for future use.
Here are some great reasons to season money from your business lines of credit:
- keep money that can be used to repay the monthly payments on initial credit lines while you build the business
- have money available for salaries during business start-up
- Strengthen your balance sheet with good cash reserves
- Use cash as collatoral or leverage to secure new loans
- Cash cushion available for emergencies
The most powerfule way to leverage business credit is to use the cash from business credit lines to open accounts and establish relationships with small regional lenders. These local lenders are more likely to offer you lines of credit if you season money in an account at your local bank.
Play BIG #Power Player 